Maybe this is a cop out because we’re on Substack, but I’m proud of myself for…starting a Substack 🤣 I’ve always loved writing, but have never been brave enough to share my work. I’m not sure what changed. One morning I just sort of woke up and was ready to set my fears aside. Putting my words out there has been a transformative experience, and I’m starting to wonder what I was so afraid of!
The retreat sounds fabulous, Ali, and it’s so impressive that you saw it through all the way from idea to execution. Congrats on a job well done.
Not a cop out at all!! It’s absolutely something to be proud of. I started a Substack before I had time to second guess myself, but I felt so nervous and self-indulgent sharing it with others at first. It was like a secret project. We get in our own way so often because it’s simply so much easier not to share our work. I’m proud of you for doing it and happy you’ve found the process of writing on here transformative! Congratulations!
I’m with you Samantha! Also celebrating the launch of my Substack and how I’ve stepped into actively sharing it in the world, loudly and proudly. I feel like I’ve gained a greater respect for myself and more confidence each time I finish an essay. Where I would normally downplay it as a little personal project, I find myself owning it as the first step in my bigger vision and treating it (and myself) accordingly. So much power in these seemingly small actions!
I love this perspective so much. The "size" of action is almost irrelevant -- anytime you're proud of yourself, your choices, and/or your work it creates so much self-respect and confidence.
Love this!! When you are happy for others and their accomplishments, you are manifesting that same feeling and goal-achieving for yourself. When you spread love it comes back around! I am proud of myself for my ability to grow and forever evolve and learn. It’s easy to stay in the same place in life and be so attached to an identity that serves you at one point, but no longer does. It really takes courage to be self-aware and pull yourself away from those identities that don’t serve you! After a hard situation last year, I’ve completely released control of the people in my life and therefore have found so much happiness and have felt that way I’ve always wanted to feel- loved and free! So here’s so always bettering ourselves and embodying our truest selves.
Yes!!! Yes to all of this. I especially relate to your thought about getting too attached to a past identity of self, therefore limiting change. I think social media had also made this so much more difficult. To genuinely change internally might necessitate changing the performance of ego, and it’s hard to invite real change if we’re looking at and clinging to all these images of another life. But so happy you’re feeling loved and free, and embraced your transformation!
I appreciate this post and love reading all the positive comments! I’m proud of myself for really setting aside hours for writing, editing, researching, and networking. With all the complications with my health the last couple of years, plus the pandemic, it’s been near impossible physically and psychologically to focus. I’m feeling energized to focus again!
Getting to the other side of that is so huge. I’m lucky to have never felt immobilized by my physical health in a long term way, but I have with my mental health after dealing with grief. Sometimes you feel like you will never get out of -- so happy you’re feeling focused again, writing and sharing your work. That’s so wonderful and worth celebrating every day!
And yes! I love seeing the comments and everybody supporting and liking each other’s notes!
It's so crazy difficult for me to share successes, too.
I am proud of myself, that after 18 years of trying to have a child, I never lost my joy for life. I didn't fall into depression (of course, sad days and bouts of feeling that life is unjust struck). I love life and now I'm editing my third novel and believe this is the one that will break me into the traditional publishing world!
I'm going to hit 'post' before I erase this! Thank you, Ali!
Thank you for sharing this, Renee! You are clearly so resilient, strong, hardworking, and full of joy and gratitude. This is absolutely something to celebrate! And congratulations on the book -- fingers crossed for you!!
Hi Ali! I really loved reading this edition of Little Things. I've written something similar about celebrating invisible/little wins (https://niacarnelio.substack.com/p/look-how-far-youve-come) before too but ngl, it's so much more effective when someone else is telling ME that I'm allowed to do that too!
So, today I wanna celebrate making a really delicious lunch: garlic fried rice, doing a bunch of chill but boring admin tasks, and generally being super excited for my best friend's birthday across continents.
I'm proud of myself for going to therapy. It was taboo growing up, and not something accepted by my family. It took a lot to finally try it, but I'm so happy I did. I'm proud I consistently make the choice to show up for myself.
Yes! What a great answer. The hardest part is showing up. To therapy. To a Yoga class. Even to journaling or creating a routine that honors your true self & needs. You've done the hardest part. You should be so proud.
You're doing brilliantly, Sarah. I hear you — even though I've studied psychology and human behaviour and what not, it still like I was doing something shameful when I chose to go to therapy but nearly two years later, I'm so, so glad I went. It's changed me: for the better. Kudos to you for challenging the status quo around you and taking care of yourself. :)
3 walks today! A total of 4 KM!
hell yes!
Maybe this is a cop out because we’re on Substack, but I’m proud of myself for…starting a Substack 🤣 I’ve always loved writing, but have never been brave enough to share my work. I’m not sure what changed. One morning I just sort of woke up and was ready to set my fears aside. Putting my words out there has been a transformative experience, and I’m starting to wonder what I was so afraid of!
The retreat sounds fabulous, Ali, and it’s so impressive that you saw it through all the way from idea to execution. Congrats on a job well done.
Not a cop out at all!! It’s absolutely something to be proud of. I started a Substack before I had time to second guess myself, but I felt so nervous and self-indulgent sharing it with others at first. It was like a secret project. We get in our own way so often because it’s simply so much easier not to share our work. I’m proud of you for doing it and happy you’ve found the process of writing on here transformative! Congratulations!
Virtual five for both of us getting out of our own way!! 🥳
Yes!! 💕
I’m with you Samantha! Also celebrating the launch of my Substack and how I’ve stepped into actively sharing it in the world, loudly and proudly. I feel like I’ve gained a greater respect for myself and more confidence each time I finish an essay. Where I would normally downplay it as a little personal project, I find myself owning it as the first step in my bigger vision and treating it (and myself) accordingly. So much power in these seemingly small actions!
I love this perspective so much. The "size" of action is almost irrelevant -- anytime you're proud of yourself, your choices, and/or your work it creates so much self-respect and confidence.
That’s awesome, Tami. Writing is such a great way to gain confidence and self-knowledge!
Yay for overcoming fears!
Love this!! When you are happy for others and their accomplishments, you are manifesting that same feeling and goal-achieving for yourself. When you spread love it comes back around! I am proud of myself for my ability to grow and forever evolve and learn. It’s easy to stay in the same place in life and be so attached to an identity that serves you at one point, but no longer does. It really takes courage to be self-aware and pull yourself away from those identities that don’t serve you! After a hard situation last year, I’ve completely released control of the people in my life and therefore have found so much happiness and have felt that way I’ve always wanted to feel- loved and free! So here’s so always bettering ourselves and embodying our truest selves.
Yes!!! Yes to all of this. I especially relate to your thought about getting too attached to a past identity of self, therefore limiting change. I think social media had also made this so much more difficult. To genuinely change internally might necessitate changing the performance of ego, and it’s hard to invite real change if we’re looking at and clinging to all these images of another life. But so happy you’re feeling loved and free, and embraced your transformation!
I appreciate this post and love reading all the positive comments! I’m proud of myself for really setting aside hours for writing, editing, researching, and networking. With all the complications with my health the last couple of years, plus the pandemic, it’s been near impossible physically and psychologically to focus. I’m feeling energized to focus again!
Thanks for all you do, Ali!
Getting to the other side of that is so huge. I’m lucky to have never felt immobilized by my physical health in a long term way, but I have with my mental health after dealing with grief. Sometimes you feel like you will never get out of -- so happy you’re feeling focused again, writing and sharing your work. That’s so wonderful and worth celebrating every day!
And yes! I love seeing the comments and everybody supporting and liking each other’s notes!
It's so crazy difficult for me to share successes, too.
I am proud of myself, that after 18 years of trying to have a child, I never lost my joy for life. I didn't fall into depression (of course, sad days and bouts of feeling that life is unjust struck). I love life and now I'm editing my third novel and believe this is the one that will break me into the traditional publishing world!
I'm going to hit 'post' before I erase this! Thank you, Ali!
Thank you for sharing this, Renee! You are clearly so resilient, strong, hardworking, and full of joy and gratitude. This is absolutely something to celebrate! And congratulations on the book -- fingers crossed for you!!
Thank you for your warm words, Ali. They mean a lot to me.
Hi Ali! I really loved reading this edition of Little Things. I've written something similar about celebrating invisible/little wins (https://niacarnelio.substack.com/p/look-how-far-youve-come) before too but ngl, it's so much more effective when someone else is telling ME that I'm allowed to do that too!
So, today I wanna celebrate making a really delicious lunch: garlic fried rice, doing a bunch of chill but boring admin tasks, and generally being super excited for my best friend's birthday across continents.
Hi Nia! I love all these little things you're celebrating! That garlic fried rice sounds amazing and is exactly my kinda thing.
Just read your post, I'm such a fan of your newsletter and everything you write about. I'm so happy you find mine too! Thank you for being here <3
It's my pleasure and I love reading your newsletter too! :D
I'm proud of myself for going to therapy. It was taboo growing up, and not something accepted by my family. It took a lot to finally try it, but I'm so happy I did. I'm proud I consistently make the choice to show up for myself.
Yes! What a great answer. The hardest part is showing up. To therapy. To a Yoga class. Even to journaling or creating a routine that honors your true self & needs. You've done the hardest part. You should be so proud.
Thank you :) I am!
You're doing brilliantly, Sarah. I hear you — even though I've studied psychology and human behaviour and what not, it still like I was doing something shameful when I chose to go to therapy but nearly two years later, I'm so, so glad I went. It's changed me: for the better. Kudos to you for challenging the status quo around you and taking care of yourself. :)
Thank you so much Nia! Your newsletter looks awesome, I can't wait to read it :)
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