Oof. Perfectionism is painful...and hard to shake! Thank you for this beautiful, vulnerable, funny, honest glimpse into it. And you're right, the beauty industry knows all about this! Hope you're feeling good enough where you are!
This was super-relatable, Ali! I'm 35 next month and also found a sudden awareness of ageing hitting me like a bus in the last few years. It's strange how quickly it happens! I also think I'm sort of coming out the other side now into acceptance. Having my daughter this year has made me so much more aware of how I speak to myself -- I want to sow the seeds of good habits early on in the hope she never hears me complaining about my appearance...We'll see how that goes!
Yes, it happens so fast! Not at all, and then all of a sudden. Glad you're finding acceptance now and that your daughter is helpful in doing so. I completely agree with being careful how we speak to ourselves around kids, especially when it comes to girls + self-criticism.
It's a process! <3 and it can also be so hard to practice self-compassion when we've spent years feeling like being hard on ourselves got us a good result. but i'm learning that being nice to myself works even better :)
Oof. Perfectionism is painful...and hard to shake! Thank you for this beautiful, vulnerable, funny, honest glimpse into it. And you're right, the beauty industry knows all about this! Hope you're feeling good enough where you are!
Thank you, Jane!! <3
This was super-relatable, Ali! I'm 35 next month and also found a sudden awareness of ageing hitting me like a bus in the last few years. It's strange how quickly it happens! I also think I'm sort of coming out the other side now into acceptance. Having my daughter this year has made me so much more aware of how I speak to myself -- I want to sow the seeds of good habits early on in the hope she never hears me complaining about my appearance...We'll see how that goes!
Yes, it happens so fast! Not at all, and then all of a sudden. Glad you're finding acceptance now and that your daughter is helpful in doing so. I completely agree with being careful how we speak to ourselves around kids, especially when it comes to girls + self-criticism.
It's a process! <3 and it can also be so hard to practice self-compassion when we've spent years feeling like being hard on ourselves got us a good result. but i'm learning that being nice to myself works even better :)
so happy to hear it resonated <3